18 and Married...

Married at 18, sounds crazy right? Totally crazy. Imagine getting engaged and having to plan a wedding within two months, even crazier. Well, that is exactly what Chaytin and I did. Engaged in April and married in June! I do not think i was a "bridezilla" but let me tell you, planning a wedding in two months is no cake walk...but that is for a whole different post.

Marriage is such a special thing and the best part is getting to spend every day with your best friend. Many people have had their opinions about our marriage, saying things like "you guys are too young" "you have not gotten to experience the world" and my personal favorite "you are only getting married because he is in the military." There is not a specific age as to when you should get married, everybody has their own timeline. Yes, we have not gotten to "experience the world" but why would I not want to experience it with the love of my life and be able to share those experiences together...and the military one is just obvious haha. We chose to get married because we knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together and experience life together, and I see it this way; if you know you want to spend the rest of your life with someone and you love them unconditionally..why wait? Marriage is great, but it is not always easy. The devil will always try to pry his way into a marriage or relationship and ruin something so beautiful God has created. There are days where I feel insecure and need a little reassurance, and although Chaytin might get a bit annoyed (I know he is thinking I married you why do you need reassurance crazy) he is always there to remind me how much he loves me and he makes me feel so special and loved when I need it most.

Being married, there will obviously be struggles...but being married young in my opinion is even harder. Chaytin and I were never really on our own financially because we had our parents, so we have learned to budget and save. COMMUNICATION is so important when it comes to finances, I have heard many stories where a marriage does not work out and it seems that finances have always played a hug part in that. Another struggle of being married young for us is growth. We have known each other since I was 16 and he was 17, so we have been through a lot of changes. Growing together as a couple is such a beautiful thing, but sometimes it really can be a struggle. C may be ahead of me in a place of our marriage emotionally and if I am not there with him, it makes it a bit harder on our marriage. But, there is always room for growth and I have loved watching him grow into the man he is today.

At the end of the day, I love being married and 10/10 recommend it. I know there will always be obstacles but with God and my husband by my side, we will always overcome them. We are both still learning how to be the Godly spouses God has called us to be, and we get to learn that together.

"I have found the one whom my soul loves." Song of Solomon 3:4